How to Craft the Perfect Proposal
Hey guys!
Happy New Year! I hope you all had a great holiday season. It was so nice for me to slow down with work a little and just relax, but now it’s back to business. One of my New Year’s resolutions is to post here at least once a week, so you can expect more posts coming your way this year. If there’s anything you would like to see, feel free to DM me on Instagram @luxebrideguide or leave a comment on this post. I’m always looking for fresh ideas! But without further ado, let’s get into it.
So what is the perfect proposal? Well that really depends on who you are proposing to! But here is a short list of what I think the perfect proposal includes!
The actual ring… I am all for going ring shopping together, especially if your fiancé-to-be is particular with what she likes! After all, if you’re spending a decent amount of money on a piece of jewelry she will wear forever, she better be in love with the ring! If she doesn’t want to go shopping with you and wants the ring to be somewhat of a surprise, of course that’s fine, but maybe try to get an idea of whether she wants a diamond or a diamond alternative/other gemstone, what kind of metal she likes, and what band style she likes or ask for photos of what she’s loving. It keeps the element of surprise, but you won’t be totally lost.
It speaks to the relationship. Do you love hiking together, movie marathons, or you’re super into wine? Incorporate that into your proposal to make it personal and meaningful. Another way to make your proposal special is to pop the question in a particular location that means a lot to the both of you. Do you always watch the sunset from a certain spot or did you say “I love you” in a particular location? Bring back those feels by proposing in the same spot. I also love this because if and when you do go back to that location at another time, you’ll always remember the memory! One negative to choosing a meaningful location is that she may catch on that you’re going to propose, so maybe lie about where you’re going. Lies are acceptable during proposal time lol.
Know your person. Is she super private? Make sure you don’t do a flash mob proposal! Is family one of the most important things in her life? Maybe plan a dinner with her family after you propose. Really think about what she would want. Don’t do what will get you the most proposal points by other people’s standards. Also if she really loves photos or documenting moments, you may want to have a photographer and/or videographer there (which also takes the pressure off of having a friend do it in case they miss the moment or forget to press record).
Say words! Well yes, of course you’re going to pop THE question, but add in extra words! I’m sure when you’re nervous it’s super hard to remember exactly what you wanted to say, but it grinds my gears when guys just drop to the knee and ask the question out of nowhere. I’m also a words of affirmation person, so this is probably a big factor in why it annoys me. If she’s not the world’s biggest sap like me or isn’t into gushy lovey things, then maybe don’t profess your love. But anyway, if you do, speak from the heart and maybe have some key points memorized before to help you in case you’re too nervous to come up with something on the spot.
That you’re proposing to the person you truly want to spend the rest of your life with. Of course, this is most important! Regardless of the planning and ring, it’s most important that you are proposing to the person who makes you better (I know everyone says this and some of you are probably like what does it even mean, but when you meet a spectacular person, you will know), who respects the heck out of you, who you can’t get enough of, who supports your goals and dreams, who is there through the best times and the worst times, and who meets whatever your must-haves are for the person you marry.
A quick note for the ladies reading this…
While I’m not engaged or have kids, I have a feeling that proposals are a lot like having a baby. While you may want to have a particular gender, I’ve heard that really you’re happy with whatever you end up having. And I think proposals are probably the same way. Even though you may dream of some epic surprise, the fact is that if he proposes in the middle of a movie while you’re chilling on the couch in your sweatpants with no makeup on, in the aftermath, you’ll probably say that it was perfect.
Just a few other tips…
I know this may seem terribly old fashioned to some of you, but it’s a major “do” in my book to ask permission to marry her. While traditionally you would ask her dad, of course if her dad isn’t in her life, a father-figure, her mom, a very special aunt or uncle, etc. is perfect as well.
Maybe have a tissue (or two or three) in your pocket in case sobbing occurs.
If she cares about her nails, make sure they are done! Enlist her friend, mom, etc. to ask if she wants to go get a manicure. Of course during these times, she may not feel comfortable going to the nail salon or being around friends, etc. which is beyond fine. I think everyone gets a free pass right now for having nails that aren’t perfectly done. You can always take your ring selfies at a later date.
Savor the moment! This is a once in a lifetime moment that you’ll never want to forget. Soak it all in. I know nothing makes me more annoyed than when I don’t remember details of a very special day or moment. Make sure to stop and make a mental note of everything, especially if you don’t have photos or video to look back on.
Well that’s all for now! I hope you enjoyed this post. Comment below with what your dream proposal would include, or if you are engaged, leave your proposal story below!
